My wife runs away in a week time-Help-Urgent
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"raj" <raj…@yahoo.com> wrote… > What can I do to protect myself from this happening. I have thought > about telling my GP here that her behaviour was abnormal, but that > would have implied an effect ie my being depressed on account of this. > Is there any way I could make a statement in court/consulate? before > her allegations come though. Please help, any suggestions at all welcome.
So what if it implies depression. You need to start talking to someone, like a solicitor or law enforcement. Perhaps you could record her statements (if its legal). Otherwise, such after the fact claims will be seem as merely self-serving. [R]
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"raj" <raj…@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:e43684ee.0407241826.5388a00b@posting.google.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I have been married for the last 4 years now, with differences and > squabbles becoming more prolonged over the last year.Lately things > have become more exacerbated by my wife resorting to chatting lots > more than before on the net.In the course of our arguments she told > that she was out looking for a new person in her life, and needed to > enjoy her life to the fullest. > Now she has contacted this chap in India( a married chap) who has > arranged for her ticket sometime in the next week, dont know when > exactly, she hasnt told me yet. > Most probably will just run off on the day after I leave for work.Im > currently in Scotland and she is here as a dependent on my working > visa.She has been threatening to take me to court , and have an > allegation of physical+mental assault/torture pushed through against > me(in her own words) , which is a criminal offence in the courts.That, > she knows will create havoc with regard to my being employed in future > here. > She has been threatening and manipulative in all the times after > marriage,eg suicidal threats when not allowed her way, like > threatening to jump of the top of a building and had to be talked out > of it on 2 occasions.Life here for me has been hell , partly because > of the fact that if she did attempt some sort of self harm, then I > would be to blame. > I have reconciled myself to the fact that she is going , but what she > has vowed to do is see that I get screwed here by her allegations in > the Indian court . > What can I do to protect myself from this happening.I have thought > about telling my GP here that her behaviour was abnormal , but that > would have implied an effect ie my being depressed on account of this. > Is there any way I could make a statement in court/consulate? before > her allegations come though. > Please help , any suggestions at all welcome.
Firstly, start keeping a record yourself. Just get an exercise book, and each day date it and record what’s happened. Next, write up now a record, a kind of a time line, of the whole thing from the beginning. Where you first met, how, who had what, acquisition of assets, income, etc. Collect financial and other records etc, and try to link major events with objective records. Your aim is to put together a comprehensive record of the whole thing. I know that will take time and trouble, but so is being sued and losing. You have to basically start this as a part-time job or hobby for yourself, and give so much time to it per week, maybe half an hour a day, something like that. This is very important self-help; it will not only help you get your head around it, it will help a lawyer, when you go to one later. It will also save you thousands of dollars, otherwise he will have to put together the same history with you sitting in conference in his office for hours on end. Get advice from a specialist family lawyer soon. Start protecting your assets now. With a bit of luck she won’t be heard from again after she reaches India. Read nomarriage.com
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I have been married for the last 4 years now, with differences and squabbles becoming more prolonged over the last year.Lately things have become more exacerbated by my wife resorting to chatting lots more than before on the net.In the course of our arguments she told that she was out looking for a new person in her life, and needed to enjoy her life to the fullest. Now she has contacted this chap in India( a married chap) who has arranged for her ticket sometime in the next week, dont know when exactly, she hasnt told me yet. Most probably will just run off on the day after I leave for work.Im currently in Scotland and she is here as a dependent on my working visa.She has been threatening to take me to court , and have an allegation of physical+mental assault/torture pushed through against me(in her own words) , which is a criminal offence in the courts.That, she knows will create havoc with regard to my being employed in future here. She has been threatening and manipulative in all the times after marriage,eg suicidal threats when not allowed her way, like threatening to jump of the top of a building and had to be talked out of it on 2 occasions.Life here for me has been hell , partly because of the fact that if she did attempt some sort of self harm, then I would be to blame. I have reconciled myself to the fact that she is going , but what she has vowed to do is see that I get screwed here by her allegations in the Indian court . What can I do to protect myself from this happening.I have thought about telling my GP here that her behaviour was abnormal , but that would have implied an effect ie my being depressed on account of this. Is there any way I could make a statement in court/consulate? before her allegations come though. Please help , any suggestions at all welcome.
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Seems both of this are saying this alot lately. — John, who is now in his 3rd week of waiting for the judge’s "couple of days" decision. "Rambler" <iamrambler at yahoo dot com> wrote in message news:ce1le4$mh41@imsp212.netvigator.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Seems like I am saying this alot today. > File for divorce now. Do so first. Then her accusations become looked at > as a "response" to your filing. Her burden of proof becomes much higher. > Go talk to a solicitor. Today. > Rambler > "raj" <raj…@yahoo.com> wrote in message > news:e43684ee.0407241826.5388a00b@posting.google.com… > > I have been married for the last 4 years now, with differences and > > squabbles becoming more prolonged over the last year.Lately things > > have become more exacerbated by my wife resorting to chatting lots > > more than before on the net.In the course of our arguments she told > > that she was out looking for a new person in her life, and needed to > > enjoy her life to the fullest. > > Now she has contacted this chap in India( a married chap) who has > > arranged for her ticket sometime in the next week, dont know when > > exactly, she hasnt told me yet. > > Most probably will just run off on the day after I leave for work.Im > > currently in Scotland and she is here as a dependent on my working > > visa.She has been threatening to take me to court , and have an > > allegation of physical+mental assault/torture pushed through against > > me(in her own words) , which is a criminal offence in the courts.That, > > she knows will create havoc with regard to my being employed in future > > here. > > She has been threatening and manipulative in all the times after > > marriage,eg suicidal threats when not allowed her way, like > > threatening to jump of the top of a building and had to be talked out > > of it on 2 occasions.Life here for me has been hell , partly because > > of the fact that if she did attempt some sort of self harm, then I > > would be to blame. > > I have reconciled myself to the fact that she is going , but what she > > has vowed to do is see that I get screwed here by her allegations in > > the Indian court . > > What can I do to protect myself from this happening.I have thought > > about telling my GP here that her behaviour was abnormal , but that > > would have implied an effect ie my being depressed on account of this. > > Is there any way I could make a statement in court/consulate? before > > her allegations come though. > > Please help , any suggestions at all welcome.
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Seems like I am saying this alot today. File for divorce now. Do so first. Then her accusations become looked at as a "response" to your filing. Her burden of proof becomes much higher. Go talk to a solicitor. Today. Rambler "raj" <raj…@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:e43684ee.0407241826.5388a00b@posting.google.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I have been married for the last 4 years now, with differences and > squabbles becoming more prolonged over the last year.Lately things > have become more exacerbated by my wife resorting to chatting lots > more than before on the net.In the course of our arguments she told > that she was out looking for a new person in her life, and needed to > enjoy her life to the fullest. > Now she has contacted this chap in India( a married chap) who has > arranged for her ticket sometime in the next week, dont know when > exactly, she hasnt told me yet. > Most probably will just run off on the day after I leave for work.Im > currently in Scotland and she is here as a dependent on my working > visa.She has been threatening to take me to court , and have an > allegation of physical+mental assault/torture pushed through against > me(in her own words) , which is a criminal offence in the courts.That, > she knows will create havoc with regard to my being employed in future > here. > She has been threatening and manipulative in all the times after > marriage,eg suicidal threats when not allowed her way, like > threatening to jump of the top of a building and had to be talked out > of it on 2 occasions.Life here for me has been hell , partly because > of the fact that if she did attempt some sort of self harm, then I > would be to blame. > I have reconciled myself to the fact that she is going , but what she > has vowed to do is see that I get screwed here by her allegations in > the Indian court . > What can I do to protect myself from this happening.I have thought > about telling my GP here that her behaviour was abnormal , but that > would have implied an effect ie my being depressed on account of this. > Is there any way I could make a statement in court/consulate? before > her allegations come though. > Please help , any suggestions at all welcome.
